European Rose Chafer

By Nick Gilmore

Published: 27 Jun, 2025

Friday

Big day today. I’ve had an interim target of getting my weight back below 100kg and I made it today. At the end of April I was just shy of 105kg so I’m happy with that change. To put it in some sort of perspective, when I was doing heavy resistance training three times a week I was just under 95kg. But that was before Mum was first ill. The sessions were cut to one a week as visiting Mum took priority but even then I was still able to make progress.

This weight loss was achieved without doing anything too crazy. I still have two sugars in my tea. All I’ve really done is cut out cake and biscuits with my morning coffee – much to The Dog’s disgust – and cut out one slice of toast at breakfast. And now that the weather has warmed up it’s easy to have a salad for nearly every evening meal. I’m not an obsessive calorie counter like Lesley is but I eat what she eats and have a bigger portion. She logs everything in MyFitnessPal and that really helps. I just track my weight daily and if the general trend is down then I’m happy with that.

Lesley had already hit a target a few days earlier and knowing that the next kilo to be lost would be more difficult than the last we thought we’d better have a think about what could change when we set ourselves new targets.

This conversation came after a few days where a friend of Lesley’s had been the topic. She’s also struggling with her weight and even got referred to a weight-loss group by her GP. But she didn’t see instant results and gave up almost before she started.

We’ve long suspected that Google listens to what we say. More evidence of that was provided by the next video presented by the YouTube algorithm…


“Wow! She’s good! That was really interesting. Your mate could do with watching that. Do you think she would?”

I didn’t wait for an answer. No need to give Google any more ammunition against us.

Bloody hell.

Author’s Note

My Mum was in a nursing home in the Thames Valley for a year and a half until she passed away in December 2024. My Father-in-law went into the same home the following January. But Lesley’s sister didn’t approve and made the situation so awkward that he had to be moved. He passed away in March 2025. Names and locations have been changed or hidden to protect the identities of those involved.

Image Credit

Original Image by Nick Gilmore. June 2021.

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